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Dear Cathi, 

My children have been home from school for almost a month now. I am enjoying our time together as a family, but my son and daughter are bickering constantly. I feel like I’ve tried everything under the sun to get them to stop. I’ve tried bribing, yelling, separating them, cajoling. You name it; I’ve tried it. What can I do? 

Jeanne


Dear Jeanne,

As frustrating as it is to be around quarreling siblings, do know that this is not only normal, but desirable. There is no such thing as a conflict-free household. Instead, the goal is for a family to work through issues in a healthy way. Children learn tremendously how their behavior impacts other people from feedback from their siblings. I have a few ideas for you:

  1. Special time with each of your children individually is probably the most useful way to reduce conflict at home. Even 15 minutes of regularly scheduled time once a week doing an activity of your child’s choice is enough time to help your child feel he/she is a priority to you and lessen the conflict between siblings.
  2. Establish a family meeting one time weekly to resolve conflicts creatively as a family.
  3. Create clear family ground rules and consequences for breaking the ground rules.
  4. Encourage cooperation by doing family projects i.e. plant a garden, build a tree house, etc.
  5. Develop rituals to build family identity i.e. weekly family movie night, breakfast for dinner night.
  6. Get involved in sibling conflicts as little as possible; communicate trust that they can work it out together.
  7. Remember these Dont’s: don’t compare your children; don’t take sides; don’t reward tattlers; don’t let yourself get too emotional.

Good luck, Jeanne. I hope this helps.

Cathi

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We get a lot of questions from our parents about what the best apps are for their children. We thought we would compile some resources here for you to use as a reference. There a many free apps out there, but most of the really specialized applications do charge a fee. Take a look and let us know which ones you like best.

You can email your feedback to info@insteppc.com.

 

Apps for kids with Autism and Aspergers

http://www.bookroomreviews.com/2010/08/16/best-ipad-apps-for-autism-and-aspergers-syndrome/

http://www.socialnavigatorapp.com/aspergers_apps.htm

http://consonantlyspeaking.com/posts/2012/05/social-skills-and-autism-spectrum-disorders-app-list  (there is a pdf to download)

http://www.autismspeaks.org/autism-apps

http://www.autismpluggedin.com/2011/09/10-free-ipad-apps-for-children-with-special-needs.html

http://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/columnist/gudmundsen/2013/02/24/ipad-apps-special-needs/1928443/

 

Apps for kids (or adults!) with ADHD

http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/8698.html

http://www.socialnavigatorapp.com/add_adhd_apps.htm

http://pinterest.com/shancoolherd/apps-for-adhd-or-asd/

http://www.families.com/blog/free-apps-to-help-parents-of-kids-with-adhd

http://adhdapps.blogspot.com/2012/03/top-10-ipad-apps-for-adhd.html

http://appcrawlr.com/ios-apps/best-apps-adult-adhd

 

Apps for working on Social Skills

http://www.friendshipcircle.org/blog/2011/02/23/11-social-skills-life-skills-apps-in-ipad-app-store/

http://www.inov8-ed.com/2010/11/theres-a-special-app-for-that-part-2-5-1-apps-to-develop-social-skills-for-students-with-special-needs/

http://pinterest.com/ATgirl/free-social-skills-apps/

http://consonantlyspeaking.com/posts/2012/05/social-skills-and-autism-spectrum-disorders-app-list  (there is a pdf to download)

 

Apps for kids with Special Needs

http://specialchildren.about.com/od/equipment/tp/featuredapps.htm

http://www.oneplaceforspecialneeds.com/main/library_special_needs_apps.html

http://blog.momswithapps.com/apps-for-special-needs/

http://www.autismpluggedin.com/2011/09/10-free-ipad-apps-for-children-with-special-needs.html

http://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/columnist/gudmundsen/2013/02/24/ipad-apps-special-needs/1928443/

http://pinterest.com/spoonie/apps-for-kids-with-special-needs/

 

 

 

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