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‘Tis the season for turkey and family gatherings, where everyone has something to say whether or not anyone wants to hear it. Who has heard of the Yik Yak app? Those of you who have middle/high schoolers are likely hip to this already, but I thought it was worth sharing for those of you who are not in the know.

This is a platform where you can post anything you want, anonymously. Next to the posts there are up and down arrows. People go on and upvote (for like) and downvote (for don’t like). If you have 3 downvotes, the post is deleted. The key to this is that it picks up the feed of anyone within a 10 mile radius.

Wow! This is absolutely unbelievable. It is basically a stream of consciousness from the minds of all the local teens.

How are they using it? Tonight there is smack talk about a football game. There is complaining about school. Talk about sex. Regrets about their fifth helping of pie. Everything. I signed up because I have teenagers and check in on social media on and off and this was a new one to me.

Take a look. It is an eye opener. Yik Yak, LLC is the app.

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Elizabeth Kolbert’s article in The New Yorker “Spoiled Rotten: Why Do Kids Rule the Roost” is almost painful to read.  Comparing our society’s parenting methods to other cultures somehow demonstrates our struggles in bold relief.  This reminds me of the story of the complacent frog lounging in his pot of gradually warming water.  He doesn’t realize until it’s too late that the water is boiling.

Are we raising a generation of spoiled children who, while capable of performing well academically, are outraged when asked to perform the most basic of life skills? I hope not.  But does this sound familiar?

Your turn to load the dishwasher. “What?!? No!”
Please take out the trash.  “Moooom, why do I have to do EVERYTHING around here?”
Set the table.  “Daaaaad, I don’t have time.  I have homework to do!!!!”
Mow the lawn.  “Are you crazy? You want me to saw my legs off?!”

And, if it does “is the water in your pot getting warmer?”


Cathi Cohen, LCSW, CGP

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